Are You Always Contemplating On How To Get A Girl To Like You?
Are You Always Contemplating On How To Get A Girl To Like You?
You are not alone my friend. I talk to and meet guys all the time who are busy working their minds over, then asking me “do you know how to get a girl to like you?”. The reality of the situation however is there is no really cut and dry answer. For one, you have to take into account that no two girls are the same. For two, there are many different methods and techniques to snag the girl as there are girls in the world, so that alone adds a bit to the complexity factor. However, Im sure I can give you some tips and advice that may go a long way to swing the ball back in your favor. Try and hang in there a bit with me a bit.
Do Alot, Be Alot
First things first… you want to make sure that you give off the impression of a man who has a lot going on in his life, and also has a good relationship with their family. No girl wants a man whom has absolutely nothing to do or nothing positive going on in their lives. Not only that, your going to have to be cool in the way you try to interact with them. Women hate a man who seems to get attached too easily and doesn’t want to let them go or give them some space. You gotta let em have freedom and allow them more than enough room to breathe. This allows you the ability to be around and on her mind enough that she’s constantly thinking of you, but not so much that you soon start to become a pest. You have no idea just how many men there are in the world who try to watch over their current or potential women like a warden watches over inmates in the big house. It wont get you far, so stop it.
Who Is Mr. Right….. Really?
The next thing you need to take into consideration is “WHO ARE YOU?” are you being you? or are you trying to be someone else who isn’t you? The best way to play the game is always be yourself and no one else. Sure you may not naturally reek of confidence and strong self esteem, but that doesn’t mean you cant work on bringing it out, as it resides within all of us. Just make sure that you are working on bringing out YOUR confidence, and not some other guy who’s successful with the ladies like Arthur Fonzarelli.
See, being a bad guy who pisses off the law can be cool i guess, but only if thats really and truly you. If thats not you, then I would try very hard to stay away from such an image. It wont be long before that image is put to the test and you have to defend it and if you don’t do it successfully, then the fallout has the chance of being severe.
Show your personality, your humorous side, your smart side… just be interesting and not a total bore to be around. Do not be fake no matter what because at some point, your true self will come to the light and when she sees how far the divide is between your real self and your fake self, chances are good that she may not be so very much into you anymore.
Be As Much Mr. Perfect as You Can Be
Just like we men like our women fit and in shape, women are very much the same way. They are attracted to men whom are fit and sexy as well. If you are a fat or chubby guy, it will pay for you to get in shape. Get yourself down to the gym. Workout until you have something that resembles a desirable figure that the women feel they can get into. Being in shape will not only increase your power when it comes to the women, it will do absolute wonders for your overall confidence and well-being.
Run some laps, break out the tae-bo videos, enroll in a martial arts class if you can. These are things that go a long way in self-improvement and the ladies will most definitely pick up on it and shower you with the affection your new hot body so deserves.
Funny or Die
It pays to be funny. Women don’t always want to admit it but they get weak in the knees for men whom can make them laugh and keep them laughing constantly. Haven’t you ever noticed that comedians are always the ones with the hottest chicks? Its true. They may not necessarily be the most handsome guy around, or even be that rich, but the mere fact that they can keep them in rib busting laughter all the time gives them the advantage over every other guy. If it turns out that you personally are not all that funny, the game is still not totally lost. Try to use your environment around you and look for funny things that are happening in your vicinity and try to comment on them. Try and see if you have any comedians that you both are fans of. Find that common ground and go buy some of their dvd’s or cassettes and watch them together. Or you can take her to one of their shows when they are performing.
One thing I should note though, and its amazing to me that so many dudes are oblivious to this: Keep the dirty jokes at bay. Unless she exhibits and pushes the dirty jokes before you first, then you should definitely by all means totally avoid them. Alot of girls are so totally unreceptive to dirty joke telling that it may just be the thing that gets you grounded before you can lift off. Keep it clean, keep it straight, and you more than likely will succeed in the humor department.
Flattery my Dear, Will Get You Everywhere
Now when you got the humor game down pat, you want to compliment and flatter her every now and again. Make it a habit of telling her the things about her that you really appreciate, of course without going overboard. In your approach, try to pay attention to her appearance at all times so that you can make note of a personal change when she makes it, for example when she gets a new hairdo, gets herself a new manicure or pedicure, or buys a new dress, or is wearing some brand new highly aromatic perfume. You have to be aware of these small but constant changes and let her know you notice when she makes them. She’ll love you for it because then she knows that you are really into her and are always attentive to the little things she does.
If your girl has an accent of some foreign country, tell her you just love the way it sounds when she talks to you with it. If she has an unusual walk, tell her she walks just like a model or something like that. Just make sure you think before you speak in all cases and dont say anything too dumb, stupid, or unfunny that it will be hard to elicit a positive response. Use your intuition and gauge your complimenting accordingly and you should be fine.
Keep Your Friends Close…
If your working on a new girl whom your not quite in a relationship with, you may find some difficulty if you try to make her your girlfriend right off the bat. She may exhibit some apprehensiveness. The best way to finagle your way into her door would be to initially play the friendly route. Strike up interesting conversations with her, make her laugh and stuff of the sort. Maybe share some of your secrets with her,and try to get her to share some of hers…all the things that close friends do.
You’re going to have to tread carefully here though. If you do this for too long without trying to elevate the relationship into the next level, she may find it hard to see past this and may very well just want to keep you in the friendly zone, as she’s already accustomed to you as a close friend and it might feel awkward to her for you to now be her boyfriend, and at the same time she doesn’t want to risk messing up your already good friendship. Your just going to have to use your gut instinct to know when to try to move it to level 2.
I personally would try after a couple weeks, or at most a couple months. After that, you need to let her know what the deal is.
Don’t be a Stalker….. Seriously
I once knew a guy who was involved with a chick and he would drive by her house and watch in his car from across the street every night to check and make sure that she was home by looking if the lights in the house were on. If they weren’t on and she wasn’t home, his mind would go bezerk with bizarre thoughts of infidelity and the like and he wouldn’t know what to do.
Trust me guy, no chick like a stalker boyfriend. You are very. very likely to get dumped by her if she finds out you are stalking her. Following her to school and work, perhaps even having surveillance video of her…. these are things that are not only bad and likely to end your relationship with her, but also have the potential to send your ass to prison.
You’re going to have to exhibit some form of trust when it comes to your girl or else she will be breaking out the restraining order on you before you know it and have the police leading you away in handcuffs.
Important Dates and Events…. Mark Your Calendar
Men are so different from women when it comes to remembering important dates and events. Its just the way it is. But even though thats the way it is, that doesn’t mean your woman will just accept it. She will most definitely frown upon you if you happen to forget her birthday, or valentines day, or if you do happen to remember them, you don’t make them a big deal. Take my advice when I tell you…. MAKE THEM A BIG DEAL. If its her birthday, buy her a big cake, take her out to dinner, buy her gifts if you are able to afford it. On Valentines day make sure you buy a bouquet of real red roses and sprinkle the petals all over the floor so that she’s walking on a carpet of roses. Buy her one of those huge teddy bears thats like 7 ft tall. Girls eat stuff like that up like candy. Speaking of candy, make sure your only getting the biggest box of exotic dark chocolates for her delight. I can almost assure you that if you play it like this on these special days, she’ll have no choice but to give up the draws and love doing it.
Mind Your Manners
So many guys overlook the fact that its expected that you have good manners. Nobody cares for people that exercise bad manners, your girl included. I don’t think you really should have to be told this, and that it should just come naturally to you because thats what your parents taught you as a child growing up, but even still, it gets overlooked enough that I feel it does take some reiteration. You should make it your business to hold the doors for her when you are both walking through one. Open the car door for her too when getting into and out of your vehicle. When sitting down to dinner, fancy or regular, you as a gentleman should make it your business to pull out her chair for her so that she can sit down to eat.
Try not to interrupt her when you guys are having a conversation. Its often not addressed but believe me when I tell you, nothing leads the way to a failed relationship quicker than constant interruption of the other party when talking. If you don’t do it her, chances are very good she will reciprocate and never do it to you. The business of good manners goes very far in healthy relationships alot more than you would ever be lead to believe. So do your best to work on them.
You Can Learn Alot From Abe Lincoln
The one thing that people resonate over and over again when it comes to our 16th president more than the fact that he freed the slaves, was that he was renown for his honesty. Honesty is always the best policy in almost every situation. This credo isn’t lost when thinking of how to get a girl to like you. You should never lie about stuff such as your history and name and other important or even non-important things. The fact of the matter is, you should never lie period. Just in case you were wondering, cheating is also a form of lying. So I guess it makes sense for me to tell you…. DONT DO IT. You will absolutely regret the outcome if you do. Trust me on this one.
The only time lying may be acceptable is if you’re with your woman for some time and she asks you that all too dreaded question “baby, does this dress make me look fat?” I don’t think i need to tell you that even if that dress does indeed make her look fat, telling the truth in this situation is almost absolutely an epic fail on your part just waiting to happen. This is like the only instance where you should concede the truth and just tell her “No, dear, not in the least. There’s no way that dress makes you look fat. Your shape is still as lovely as the day I met you”. Im probably laying it on a bit thick here, but I’m sure you still get the point and thats all that matters.
Beware the Green Eyed Monster
Some men like to try to make their girl jealous. I think its safe for me to tell you that this is a totally unsafe and reckless strategy if you are trying to attract a woman. You may deliberately try to flirt with many girls and be somewhat sexual with them when in her presence and think that this will make her want you more. Believe me when I tell you that this opens up a huge opportunity for the jealousy strategy to backfire and blow up directly right in front of your face. If you do this and it doesn’t play out exactly the way you think it should when you went over it in your mind 100 times, there’s always that chance that she might just end up boinking your homeboy out of spite. That would most definitely suck and I’m pretty sure probably end the relationship. Keep the jealousy tactics at bay and things will go more right for you than they can go wrong. Please heed my advice on this one.
Splish Splash I Was Taking a Bath
I don’t know if one can stress this enough, but when it comes down to how to get a girl to like you, you better make sure you routinely wash your ass. It might be very hard to get a girl to want to hug and kiss you if you smell like the dumpster outside on the curb. This point really and truly should go without saying but at the end of the day, some guys mess it up for the rest of us so I have no choice but to say it. Body odor and bad breath and the like turn everybody off, not just your significant or potentially significant other.
When you know for a fact you are going to be interfacing with your girlfriend, please make it your business to shower up before hand. We can and should assume that she will do this before getting up with you, so its only necessary that you do the same. Brush your teeth, get the mints and all of that handy just in case it comes down to where you eventually might kiss her. Im sure she likes fresh guys, and you being fresh as hell will get you so much play you wont know what to do with yourself.
Don’t Do It Till You Can’t Do It No More!
When you are courting or already involved with a girl. it is important that when you find something you like to do with her, that you do not overdo it. Variety is indeed the spice of life, and too much of anything can make that once great thing, not so great anymore. Not only will you eventually get bored of it, chances are good that she will too. What you have to do is always be on the look out for new ways and techniques to keep things interesting and fun.
If you like going to the movies, put a pause on it for a bit. Mix in some amusement park visits. Go rock climbing, go-cart racing, hang gliding, etc. There are so many things you can do that will keep your relationship with this woman fun and vibrant, and I’m sure she too will come up with ideas of her own as well too, so that has the potential to make for a variety double whammy.
Epilogue
I hope you truly enjoyed this little breakdown of what I think are critical things you need to go over, consider, and make them one with you if you are still trying to realize how to get a girl to like you. I’ve really and truly only touched the surface on this topic. If you want more rock solid info that will make you the don of your neighborhood and make all the other hapless daters look to you for relationship advice, then I think it would be best for you to look into the powerful video series presented in the banner below. This is your buddy, the good Love Doctor Mr. X, signing off till my next post of awesomeness. Later gator.
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